Unless you’ve been living under a rock, there is no way you’ve missed the news of ace actor Aamir Khan and writer – director Kiran Rao filing for divorce after 15 years of marriage. A bollywood power couple, they issued a graceful joint statement announcing the same last week. The couple is but one in a long list of big-name divorces that have been recently announced, Bill and Melinda Gates being another (and also the most expensive divorce).
What do both these divorces have in common?
Though they might have come as a surprise to the general public, the couples in question only made things public once the formalities were done. They waited for the legal process to be complete before announcing publicly. Most importantly, they never washed their dirty linen in pubic. There was no name calling or blaming each other for the situation. Obviously, we don’t know what happened in private- but for those of us in similar situations, this is a good thing to keep in mind.
Divorces and separations are difficult celebrity or not; but keeping your head-high and being graceful about your partner in public gives you not just dignity but also control. Being uncharitable to your soon-to-be ex-spouse can be tempting, certainly when the stakes are high. However, stakes don’t get much higher than the MacKenzie and Jeff Bezoz split in 2019; she ended up receiving $38.3 Billion in Amazon stock in addition to assets and property. Even then, they both settled their differences privately or in court but have been nothing but supportive and courteous to each other in public.
The list of celebrity divorces is endless, Mallika Arora and Arbaaz Khan, Hrithik Roshan and Suzanne Khan, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, Kim Kardashian and Kanye West being just a few. Sure, being rich and famous makes a huge difference but it’s still a life altering decision. However, there are two key takeaways from all of these. First, it happens to everyone. No matter how rich, famous, successful you or your spouse are, marital woes afflict all of us. As two people grow older and change, it often becomes impossible to be happy with the person you married when you were a lot younger.
Second, and most important is that it is not the end of the world.These are people who have lived full lives after the divorce. They have grown personally and professionally – loved, had kids, embarked on new careers and ventures, all because they took charge of their lives and got out of relationships that were not making them happy. They did not let the end of their marriage be the end of their lives, and you don’t have to either. No matter how old you are when you separate from your spouse, you still have the rest of your life to live; and now you can do it free from the baggage of the past.
Divorce is hard, but it is not the end of your journey, it is a pit stop and you have a long way to go. At GetMeADivorce.com that is our purpose. With the right legal council and mediation, we want to help you start with the rest of your life.